“Self-care needs to be included in what you should be doing. It is not a privilege. It is a necessity.” – Jessica N. Turner
Self-care is being as kind to ourselves as we would be to others. Sometimes when we get so busy or overwhelmed, it can become easy to neglect ourselves. Taking the time to take care of ourselves can make us a better caretaker for others. It is not only good for your physical restoration but also mental, spiritual and emotional. Self-care is necessary to remind yourself and others that you and your needs are important too.
2. Setting Boundaries
“A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect”
Boundaries are the mental and emotional space between you and another person. The people who have an issue with you having boundaries are the ones that need them the most. There will never be anything wrong with creating healthy boundaries that you will not allow anyone to cross. Setting boundaries, specifically with people that we care about can be hard at first. You may feel remorseful, but creating boundaries is necessary when it comes to caring for ourselves and anyone that has a problem with that, regardless of who they are, does not belong in your space. Your boundaries will guide you and others on what will and will not work for you.
3. Venture Outside Your Comfort Zone
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. -Neale Donald Walsch
At one time or another we all have had trouble stepping outside of our comfort zone. When we stay in our comfort zones, nothing changes and you never get to find out what you’re truly made of. I have always been told, ” Even when we are scared, we should do something that we aren’t accustomed to doing.” It can lead us to unbelievable personal improvement and accomplishments.
4. Protect Your Peace
“Protect your peace. Get rid of toxicity. Cleanse your space. Cultivate love.” – Diddy
Peace is essential to our well-being and honestly anything that costs you your peace is too expensive. Sometimes in order to protect our peace we have to make the decision to eliminate anything or anyone that is toxic from our lives. Whether it be friends, family or material things, negative energy and peace cannot coexist. Peace should always be prioritized above all else.
5. Stop Saying Yes When You Want To Say No
“Live your life for you not for anyone else. Don’t let the fear or being judged, rejected or disliked stop you from being yourself.” – Sonya Parker
Why do we sometimes feel like it is so important to please everyone? Is it because we feel like saying no would make someone angry, disappoint them, or seem rude and unkind? Saying no should never make us feel any of these things. We should always say what we mean and mean what we say. Your self-worth does not depend on what you do or don’t do for anyone else. Always remember what is truly important and to make yourself a priority. Trying to make everyone happy is impossible and it can lead to unnecessary stress and frustration.
These habits can be very hard to build. I’m working on them now! They all fall under setting boundaries in my eyes – at least that’s the way I understand them. They are very important and once mastered or managed, they allow us to be better versions of ourselves. Why is the human condition such that it’s difficult to master these habits?
I think these are such great tips! Learning to say no is SO important for personal growth. Too often, we put ourselves out and stretch ourselves far too thin.
Matt Taylor says
These are all great habits to grow in order to personally grow. I have fallen prey to the “Yes-man” mentality, I am getting much better at saying no now.
Great read! Protecting your peace is so important, I don’t dedicate enough time to self care but this blog reminded me that I must make time for it.
Bright snow Loveland says
Very interesting post. Thanks for sharing
These are all so important. I am getting better at setting boundaries and saying no. Thank you for sharing
jennifer schreiner says
Love this…. If you are not willing to step out of your comfort zone.. how are you suppose to grow?
While I do most of these already… I’m awful when it comes to self-care. I have to remember to take that time for myself.
the joyous living says
a well-written post, indeed! one of the most empowering things my therapist ever said to me was that I had the power to say NO. It’s amazing how that does help with your personal growth.
I have seen a lot of posts about personal growth and health, and ond think I find that they are have in common is that we dont seem to prioritice ourselves enough, give ourselves the time.
Ntensibe Edgar Michael says
Hihi….this is nice! May I add on putting down the phone more than often?
I love all the quotes especially the stop saying yes when you want to say no. We should all be ourselves. We cant pleased everyone.
I am guilty with number 5! Sometimes i try to please everyone and say yes to everything. Will keep all of these in mind
Angela Ricardo Bethea says
Those are some wonderful tips to keep in mind. Self Care is quite important for me and I hope people see the important of it as well as those other ones.
Steven Morrissette says
All the things you said are all really true. Specially the one that says yes when you want to say no this is important because doing something you don’t like to do is not fun and it’s a waste of time.
Marie Phillips says
These are the most perfect 5 habits to practice for personal growth, but I think peace may be the best one. There is such value in knowing that as crazy as things can be around us, keeping peace within us will help us to get through the most difficult of times. It helps us to recognize and remove the toxicity that surrounds us at any given time. And it helps the other steps to come more naturally! Great post!
khoingn | The Broad Life says
Thanks for sharing the tips! It’s very helpful to know and useful to apply.
Angeline Gormley says
Love your blog! The saying “no” when I really want to resonates with me. I am a people-pleaser, so this encouragement helps me a lot. Thank you!
Saying no is a huge breakthrough. I’d also add prayer and Bible study to the list that helps me.
Krysten Quiles says
Amen to all of this. I am really working towards helping myself grow and definitely needed this today.
Yes to all of this! I have to start taking charge of my own life and stop catering everything to other people!
Yes we all need to practice more self care I think and this is a great list to help people.
Emman Damian says
Self care is really important. Also, it’s essential to set realistic goals. It’s much more achievable.
These are great habits and we definitely need to create more time for self care!
katrina Kroeplin says
these are great ideas. self care is so important.
I love how you talk about a lack of boundaries is a lack of reepect. To think of the self respect I have lacked due to this!
This quote that you shared, resonated with me the most “ Protect your peace. Get rid of toxicity. Cleanse your space. Cultivate love.” – Diddy
I agree that it would be nice to gain these habits for one’s personal growth! Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is a must, I’m glad you shared these with us!
With a LOT of practice I have gotten REALLY good at 2 and 5. I still need to work on my self care.
Really found it very helpful and meaningful blog post…all of the habits are truly very useful especially i admire the 5 one STOP SAYING YES WHEN YOU WANT TO SAY NO…coz most of the people are unable to do this…great work though..glad you shared this with us…
Ceci Rey says
These are great suggestions…I need to practice self care! ???
Daniel Sierra says
Thank you very much for these tips. It is very important to keep good habits and a healthy mind!
Christopher Mitchell says
I really believe in what you’ve said about leaving your comfort zone. That’s where the real progress is made!
Everyone should focus on personal growth. Thanks for the great tips!
My Kitchen says
These are very important points.
I currently practice all of them except for number 3.
This post couldn’t have come at a better time! Thanks so much for sharing!
Elizabeth O says
Setting boundaries is key to achieving the rest.
Until we learn to set them, everything else is a game of chance.