When I first made the decision to be a stay-at-home mom, I had no idea of what it was going to be like. For me in the beginning it was isolating and exhausting at times. To not have the regular adult interaction and being inside all day made me feel like the walls were closing in on me.
When Aubrey was a few months old, it was easy to care of her. She slept a lot and I was able to get stuff done around the house, lounge and sometimes even take a nap while she napped. When she became more active and started sleeping less during the day my downtime that I looked forward to went away.
As she became mobile and more aware of everything around her, those downtime days quickly got replaced with making sure she wasn’t getting into anything she wasn’t supposed to or making sure she didn’t get hurt days. Losing my downtime started to make me feel anxious and irritable and I knew that if I didn’t make a change things would just get worse.
At that point I made the decision to make some changes that I knew were going to help me stay sane and flourish as a stay-at-home mom.
Here are my habits that have helped to keep me sane and functioning as a stay-at-home mom:
1. Get Dressed Every Day
Right after my daughter was born, I would get up in the mornings, nurse her and move from our bedroom to the couch and sit in front of the television all day in pajamas. This went on for months. I didn’t see the point in getting dressed if I was going to be home all day looking after my daughter. After a while I started to feel like I had given up on myself and knew that something had to change. I realized that this was contributing negatively to my self-care.
I made the decision one day to start getting dressed everyday. This helps to set the mood for my entire day. It makes me feel better about myself and it also makes me feel more prepared to deal with whatever comes at me.
2. Get Out Of The House
I love staying home with my daughter but when cabin-fever started to kick in for me I had to make the conscious decision to start getting out of the house more. It is so refreshing and rejuvenating to get out of the house. The fresh air and being around other people has made a big difference.
3. Work On A Routine
Our days don’t always go as planned but I still try as much as possible to stick to a routine. The days that I get off routine everything seems to go screwy. Creating and maintaining a routine has given me a sense of productivity.
4. Ask For Help If You Need It
The quote, ” You can do anything but you can’t do everything”, has become one of my mottos. Being a mom has made me realize that I can’t do everything by myself and also for myself like I used to. I used to feel guilty about this and be so critical of myself.
When people say it takes a village to raise a child, believe me it truly does. It’s nice to know that you have others that you can rely on and lean on if you need help. Being a mom comes with its challenges and we can’t always face them on our own.
5. Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself
When I truly accepted that there is no such thing as a perfect mom it made me a happier mom. There is no manual on how to be a mom. Motherhood can be hard but it doesn’t mean that I am failing.
I had to stop being so hard on myself and realize that the gift of motherhood is beautiful, amazing and most importantly a blessing. My child is not perfect and neither am I, and that’s ok. Im still figuring out motherhood one day at a time, I still have lots of rough days but I know that tough times don’t last forever.
I have learned so much in these past 2 years since becoming a mother and still have lots to learn. The benefits definitely outweigh how demanding it can be at times and I have truly grown to love being a stay-at-home mom.